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Moms what is stopping you... Its time for you to love your dream

We're All Alright, It Just Seems a little Weird

What is really good you guys today I had a lot of stuff going on in my mind and I realize one of the things that I have not been doing is audience directly through the blog. I feel like one of the reasons why I have not been on blogging is because like most moms we are busy. We have to think about what the kids have to eat for breakfast. y'all have to think about what they're eating for lunch and dinner. We have to make sure that their hair is done and neatly kept throughout the day or at least decent enough for us to get the time to redo it. Not to mention, we also have to deal with the coronavirus and teach our kids either from home or from school. Don't get me started with the constant battle as a mother of wondering whether or not you are doing the right thing by doing homeschool or sending them to school. And having so many ideas bouncing through my head within the last eight months alone let alone since the day I became. The truth is, being an adult is hard enough, but then when you factor in having children and having to make what I like to call Mommy boss moves it becomes our whole another level of being intensely insane.

there is no such thing as a coping mechanism for the day-to-day Mommy, right? I mean if there is trust in me I would have had it. I have tried doing so many different things and thinking well maybe I should do it at another. Then I realized oh heck no boo-boo we have to do it today. The reality is tomorrow is not promised, although we cannot get everything done at one time because if you do one thing you slip on another thing. it's just the case of life and it is whatever you make it.

 Today I really want to talk about the fact that as a parent whether you are the mother who's the main character for the father who is the main character Q you should never stop working on you and what your dream is. I mean I think about a lot of women who have waited until their kids went and finished Middle School in my dream once they finish high school and then they say well I'll do my dream was say to this college essay well I'll do my dream once they finish having my grandkids. Then they go on and on until there are a few more run-on sentences in their life and realize Darn, I am like Hella old now. The Truth is we can wait and wait and wait and the next thing you know we're Saturday and we're taking turns and we can't do it. The truth is no matter what time you are in life if you still have movement in your body you can do whatever it is that is within reason in your life. just think about all the people who have had handicaps and still managed to be successful and happy in their own lives. understanding that there has to be a balance and forgiving yourself when everything does not get done is something I am learning today as we speak.

 Just yesterday I was talking to my spouse Henry, having a discussion about me getting everything that I wanted to do done and also having time to make sure that Henry gets lunch every day and the kids get what they need to do done for school every day. I  said to Henry baby I'm sorry if I'm not getting everything done it feels like I'm not doing a good enough job for my family. So he calmly replies in a way that he only can Latoya you are doing a great job you should be proud of the work that you do every day. when he said that to me I felt great but I also felt stupid for thinking that I can do everything in the world. There was another point that I took away and it was that  Henry saw everything that I was doing on a day-to-day basis and he was honestly appreciative and proud of me. I realize that in me trying to have it all and slipping sometimes it was normal. I mean every day I have a different obstacle to overcome and we all do really. 

 It really doesn't matter if you're a mom or dad or sister or brother or someone who is a big bass in a major corporation. The reality is we are all stupid when it comes to being human beings sometimes. We cannot expect to get everything done, that is simply unrealistic. However, with great time management a vast majority of things we'd like to get done if they are realistic and we leave some room for things to happen like crazy mishaps. Perhaps, the best understanding that I've gotten from yesterday's encounter was that we are all allowed to understand that we want things to go but, we have to embrace what things really are and understand that it is okay to give ourselves a pat on the back for each little accomplishment done because it goes to the greater goal.

Our goal is to become more successful and the best versions of ourselves. The best version of yourself does not stress about simple things. The best version of yourself understands that life happens and we have to adapt and react to it. I'm not going to lie in the last eight months we have had Renovations and COVID-19 pandemic and also I haven't been able to go to work like I'm used to. All the plans that I had kind of went out the window even with you recording my podcast on a day-to-day basis like I wanted to. Yeah, people coming in and out of our home and we still have people coming in and out of our own. However, it has allowed me some time to get some perspective, and in doing so I became more humble and thankful that I had the opportunity to go through all these things and still be here. I think the ultimate goal out of everything that's going on including the world pandemic is we have to make sure we take each moment and seize it. you also have to understand that there are people who see the work that we're putting in and we'll be there when we are still at work. Sometimes we may not think we're moving forward but we may be further along than we ever thought. Don't be scared, live out your dreams, and balance them out with your everyday lights. Remember you guys you only live once so if you love what you have you have everything you need.

- smooches Peace your Fam LaToya Justice Shari